Who Is Wearing Harness
Dildo sex toy and harness combos are sold to couples of all sexual orientations: women are wearing them with women; women are wearing them with men; men are wearing them with women; and men are wearing them with men. Many people also request adult movies featuring dildo and harness scenes. But what is the attraction of all these sexualities to dildo and harness sex toy sets? Using a dildo with a harness is the ultimate gender-bender according to Good Vibrations.com: "a woman who pops on a phallus can expect to feel everything from ridiculous to sublimely powerful. After all, when a woman looks down and sees the archetypal symbol of male privilege bobbing between her thighs, the experience can subvert all preconceptions of who she is and what her role is during sex." Using a dildo and harness thus provides a very powerful experience for a woman, and not to mention a man, both physiologically and psychologically.
However, when a man chooses to use a strap-on dildo or incorporate a dildo and harness into his sexual play, he is also playing with typical gender constraint roles. "A man who straps on a dildo is accepting the radical idea that his penis isn't necessarily center stage in every sexual scene, while a man who is anally penetrated by a dildo-wearing partner must embrace his own receptive, submissive side. Dildo-wearing presupposes a willingness to explore a range of emotions, fantasies, and roles" (Ibid). Before one uses a dildo and harness sextoy set, both members of the couple must be aware of the psychological implications that using such a sex toy tool may have upon their physical relationship. Based upon our increasing sales, once most couples have experienced the pleasures of harness and dildo use, the enjoyment they derive from their sexual play increases and they become more receptive to further sex toy or sex role play exploration. Some couples even cite their sexual role play involving harnesses and dildos to bring about intense feelings of self-empowerment and increased self-esteem.
Dildos and harnesses provide much more than a "penis substitute," and also allow for the exploration of gender bending fantasies. Many women enjoy "packing," or wearing dildos beneath their clothes during sexual role-play so that they can assume the role of the man at any point of the day or night. Female-to-male transsexuals and women in drag wear dildos to simulate the bulge of a penis and to complete the illusion of being male.
If you are planning on packing, you should keep in mind that a dildo which you use as a sex toy with your harness will not be the most convenient choice for packing. Walking around with a full erection is not a comfortable sensation for men, (and how many men actually walk around with an erection all the time?), and comfortably fitting an erect dildo into your jeans as a woman is next to impossible. The best option if you are transgendered and seeking the most realistic appearance is to use a dildo that is too floppy for actual penetration. Convincing packing dildos made out of cyberskin or silicone are currently available on the market for that specific use.
However, many people wear a dildo beneath their clothes with the intention of using the dildo with a partner. This would require a firmer dildo than one used specifically for packing, but the dildo should also be flexible enough to bend without breaking. If your dildo is fairly long and firm, we suggest that you try strapping the dildo on the leg strap of your harness with a harness cuff. This avoids the unpleasant sensation of having the base of the dildo awkwardly placed against your pubic bone. When it is time to use the dildo, simply switch its location on the harness and you will be ready to go.
You don't need to be a transgendered female to wear a dildo sex toy and harness. According to the Good Vibrations Guide to Sex, "dildos also make great sex toys for any woman who's ever had her erotic imagination sparked by fellatio, [due to the dildo's] blend of seduction, submission, vulnerability, and dominance." As one can imagine, role-playing with a dildo can be a sexually safe yet arousing way of enacting fellatio or sex fantasies. Some people enjoy watching their partner suck their "cock" or other's like to wear a dildo and pretend to be their male partner's gay lover. The best part of playing with dildo sex toys and harnesses is that both you and your partner can select the dildos that best resemble the penis or object of your imagination.