Pros and Cons Of Each Harness Model
With the extensive variety of sex toys on the market, it is no small wonder that many people are confused when it comes to ordering their first dildo and harness set. All of the pictures look great, but what are the options in dildo harness sex toys which exist and what are the pros or cons to each model?
The typical dildo harness has a waist strap and leg straps attached to a central ring or a flap of material which hosts an opening for the dildo. The dildo is inserted through the ring or the flap opening. The base of the dildo then rests against your body and the dildo is secured into place once the harness straps have been tightened. It should be fairly obvious that when using this type of harness that the dildo you strap on should have a flared base so that it does not fall out of the harness.
Most first time dildo harness sex toy users are surprised to find that when they wear a dildo in a harness that the dildo rests against the pubic bone, above the area where a penis would be. This positioning allows the wearer greater control over the movement of the dildo and over the angle of insertion. Generally a harness with the central flap of material has been found to give better over all support to a dildo as the dildo base is also stabilized by the material whereas the harness that attaches a dildo solely with a ring attached to straps allows for greater dildo movement which equals more frustration.
The best quality harnesses tend to be made from leather, latex or fabric and have a sturdy strap construction including D-rings and buckles for a secure, adjustable and snug fit that will minimize the movement of your dildo. Harnesses made from cheap vinyl, stiff leather or elastic tend to chafe the skin and not provide as much stability for securing your dildo. Elastic harnesses are an especially poor choice because it sags, stretches out of shape, snaps back and forth and makes it difficult to control the dildo. Unless you?re only anticipating using a dildo and harness three or four times, invest in a better model that will best immobilize the dildo and allow for better hands-free penetration.
The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex explains that "harnesses come in two basic styles: those that have one center strap running between the legs and those with two leg straps, one running around each thigh. Devotees of the single-strap style harness like the simplicity of the fit and find the thong effect of the center strap either unobtrusive or pleasurable. Devotees of the two strap style harness prefer strapping a harness around the thighs, thereby leaving their own genitals unimpeded. Men can comfortably wear the single-strap style only if they?re using the ring of the harness as a cock ring-that is, with the ring worn around the base of their penis and scrotum-rather than wearing a dildo in the harness. For strapping on a dildo, men should use a two-strap harness and position the dildo above their own genitals" (197).
The Vac-U-Lock system harness has gained a following amongst harness enthusiasts, foremost due to the quality of the leather used for the harness and secondly for the ease of securing and removing the dildo from the harness and for the three-way adjustable strap system. Some people choose to use men?s briefs or button fly jeans instead of harnesses to host a dildo, but this method does not guarantee a secure fit and there is little skin to skin contact. If minimizing skin to skin contact is preferable, sex toy manufacturers have begun to produce boxer brief style harnesses. These boxer brief style harnesses can also be used for packing—wearing dildos beneath your clothes. Alternative harnesses exist which can either be worn over the mouth or the chin, on the hand, or strapped around the thigh. Out of these the strap-on thigh harness has achieved greater popularity and this harness fastens a dildo onto the wearer?s thigh.