Introduction To Dildo Harnesses

A harness is to a dildo what a spoon is to soup. Sure you can eat your soup without a spoon, but only with a spoon can you decide how much soup to neatly direct to your mouth. The same applies to using a harness and dildo sex toy set. The harness allows you to control the action of the dildo—how much, where and when—without creating a mess. Harnesses are designed to fit around your hips and to firmly hold a dildo a little higher than your genital region against your pubic bone, thus enabling you to penetrate your partner while your hands roam free.

Dildo sex toy and harness combos are sold to couples of all sexual orientations: women are wearing them with women; women are wearing them with men; men are wearing them with women; and men are wearing them with men. Many people also request adult movies featuring dildo and harness scenes. Using a dildo with a harness is the ultimate gender-bender according to Good Vibrations.com: "a woman who pops on a phallus can expect to feel everything from ridiculous to sublimely powerful. After all, when a woman looks down and sees the archetypal symbol of male privilege bobbing between her thighs, the experience can subvert all preconceptions of who she is and what her role is during sex." Using a dildo and harness thus provides a very powerful experience for a woman both physiologically and psychologically.

However, when a man chooses to use a strap-on dildo or incorporate a dildo and harness into his sexual play, he is also playing with typical gender constraint roles. "A man who straps on a dildo is accepting the radical idea that his penis isn't necessarily center stage in every sexual scene, while a man who is anally penetrated by a dildo-wearing partner must embrace his own receptive, submissive side. Dildo-wearing presupposes a willingness to explore a range of emotions, fantasies, and roles" (Ibid). Before one uses a dildo and harness sextoy set, both members of the couple must be aware of the psychological implications that using such a sex toy tool may have upon their physical relationship. Based upon our increasing sales, once most couples have experienced the pleasures of harness and dildo use, the enjoyment they derive from their sexual play increases and they become more receptive to further sex toy or sex role play exploration. Some couples even cite their sexual role play involving harnesses and dildos to bring about intense feelings of self-empowerment and increased self-esteem.

Although strap-ons are most commonly associated with lesbian sex, according to the Good Vibrations Guide to Sex, probably half of all harness sales are to heterosexual couples who plan to explore male anal penetration. Dildos and harnesses are also useful when the male partner suffers from erectile dysfunction as strap-on dildos and harnesses provide a means of penetrating the partner that is risk free and erection dysfunction proof! Gay men benefit from using dildos and harnesses in their sex play as this is a risk-free method of penetration that allows them to have their penises stroked while penetrating their partner with the dildo. Some heterosexual couples find that dildo harness combinations allow for female double-penetration: vaginally and anally. The greatest contributing factor to dildo and harness use is the variety, adventure, and drama that these sex toys add to any sexual encounter.