Guidelines For Safe Sane Consensual BDSM Play 2

This second part to the BDSM guidelines for safe, sane, and consensual play revolves around the actual bondage or SM session instead of on the preparation for the bondage and SM scenario. Remember that these are only guidelines and that you may want to take additional precautions to ensure that you and your partner both benefit fully from this shared experience.

1. When exploring the pleasures of bondage, perform only the bondage techniques that are compatible with your skills and your experience. A lack of familiarity with the bondage techniques you use will not inspire confidence in your partner, who will be unable to fully surrender themselves to you if they do not feel that you are capable in executing the bondage technique.
2. Any tools you may need for a quick release should be handy at all times. This is a necessary safety precaution as bondage and SM play can have unexpected outcomes that may require an immediate release for any reason.
3. Communication is the key to excellent bondage and SM play, and the dominant player has a duty to make "affirmative check-ins" with their submissive before increasing the intensity of the BDSM play to make sure that there are no physical or emotional problems with continuing the bondage or SM play.
4. When you put your partner in bondage, make sure that there is no pressure to tender body parts (neck, throat, tendons, big blood vessels and so on) as any pressure may cause permanent damage or death in your partner.
5. If you choose to place your partner's limbs in bondage for a significant amount of time, regularly check their circulation and their limbs for discoloration, numbness or for a significant temperature change as these are all signals of the bondage being too tight and severely limiting circulation. Should the bondage session extend over two hours, release your partner from bondage so that they may have the chance to stretch and regain circulation before continuing with the bondage scenario.
6. A successful bondage or BDSM session thrives on a constant rapport between the top and the bottom. Each partner's moods, feelings, desires and reaction to bondage shapes should be constantly discussed as bondage and other SM play is a forum for acting out your fantasies. Both the bottom and the top should be open about their wants and needs during bondage and BDSM play.
7. All detractions from the bondage or BDSM scene should be prevented—turn off the phone, muffle the doorbell, lock the door, do not invite anyone to drop by while you are engaged in the BDSM scenario, send kids or pets out of the room, draw the curtains.
8. If any emotional or physical problems should arise, immediately drop the BDSM scene and be supportive to your partner's needs.
9. Remember to make time after the BDSM play session to allow emotions to settle, to talk about what happened, and what both of you thought and felt in regards to the bondage and SM experiences.
10. If both of you liked and took pleasure from an element in the BDSM scenario, keep it and use it again!