Arousal Through Spanking and Bondage
Bondage or other activities like spanking that are related to BDSM have taken on a mystical sort of definition in the world outside of the BDSM culture. Although bondage and spanking are not for everyone, for a remarkable number of people, the practice of bondage and spanking holds a strong erotic appeal.
The easiest way to explain the appeal of bondage or BDSM would be to say that many people find arousal in exploring a form of sexual role playing whether they choose to be in a position of dominance or submission in their bondage and spanking play. The sexual role people explore during bondage or BDSM play is not necessarily the role they play in real life and it is actually quite typical for people to be playing the opposite roles from what they normally live out. For example, judges, police officers, and lawyers are typical bondage and spanking clients of professional dominatrixes, who in their regular lives may be housewives.
Bondage and BDSM play live out fantasy bondage stories to increase the erotic arousal of the consensual players. Multitudes of roles can be acted out, some of the more common are: Slave/master, harem girl/sultan, student/schoolmistress, or boss/employee. The basis of bondage play is an erotic power game, where both people are aroused by the thrill of controlling or being controlled. Although, for many, bondage or BDSM simply provides a framework for incredibly hot sex which may be manifested in many ways, but usually involves one person playing the role of a top (dominant) and the other the role of a bottom (submissive). People do not always play the same role when acting out fantasy bondage stories but can enjoy either role in bondage play.
According to the ladies at eroticguide.com, Some people believe that arousal through spanking as an adult may have connections to early childhood, a time during which sexuality begins to evolve, as children may have found spanking to be physically stimulating due to the thousands of nerve endings found in the bottom. However, as not everyone who enjoys spanking was spanked as a child, the actual reasons for the intense arousal spanking provide may be far more complicated. Some postulate that it may have to do with enjoying the submissive position or the physical stimulation, whatever the reason, people love to be spanked.
If spanking or bondage is synonymous with pain for you, you may wonder how people can be aroused by pain or if bondage and spanking activities are actually painful. To those who indulge in bondage play, this is a highly aroused environment where pain is experienced in a completely different manner. Activities performed during bondage become an intense stimulation, which when administered by a skilled top can bring a bottom to new heights of ecstasy. For those into heavy S&M activities, the pain is translated into a strong endorphin rush, a mind altering transcendent experience. The merging of pain and pleasure can create an amazingly powerful experience for the bottom, and is sometimes known as SM: Sex Magick. For most people, though, the kick is in the intense stimulation and not in anything actually approaching pain.
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