What Is BDSM?
For the most part, bondage and associated activities are a stylized form of fantasy play, where the bondage role players often negotiate ahead of time the rules of the bondage fantasy play so that the bondage or BDSM activities remain consensual between the partners.
Arousal Through Spanking and Bondage
Bondage or other activities like spanking that are related to BDSM have taken on a mystical sort of definition in the world outside of the BDSM culture. Although bondage and spanking are not for everyone, for a remarkable number of people, the practice of bondage and spanking holds a strong erotic appeal.
Elements Of BDSM: Consent
Despite the fact that exact techniques and styles of S&M play vary tremendously, universally agreed-upon elements do exist.
Elements Of BDSM: Safeword
Despite the myths and misconceptions about bondage and BDSM, many people really enjoy playing out fantasy sex roles with their partner and they discover that bondage and S&M sex toys are an exhilarating way to enhance sexual play or help to enact intricate BDSM scenarios.
Elements Of BDSM: Negotiation and Limits
The sexual role people explore during bondage or BDSM play is not necessarily the role they play in real life and it is actually quite typical for people to be playing the opposite roles from what they normally live out.
Elements Of BDSM: Sadomasochism
Domination and submission play has to do with the general idea of one person making themselves consensually subservient to the will and commands of another person. In this form of SM play, one person gives orders and the other obeys them, within negotiated boundaries.
Five Senses Of Bondage
Having one of your senses—taste, touch, sight, hearing or smell—restricted can create a very powerful sensation during erotic play. The rule of thumb decrees that if one of the five senses is taken away, then all the other senses become more powerful and more sensitive which is what creates the excitement in bondage play.
BDSM - Who Is In?
Due to the mass media interpretation of bondage or BDSM play, bondage has become a forbidden form of sex. Despite the myths and misconceptions about bondage and BDSM, many people really enjoy playing out fantasy sex roles with their partner and they discover that bondage sex toys are an exhilarating way to enhance sexual play.
Few Ideas To Get Started
Bondage Sex Toy Play Bondage sex play is not limited to bondage and being beaten as most people tend to believe. Bondage is a part of bondage and BDSM play, but being beaten or any other bondage activity is always consensual.
Introduction To Spread Eagle Bondage
Sit back, relax and now think of bondage. What comes to mind? For many people who do not have any experience in erotic bondage play, bondage evokes the thought of tying up someone stretched out in a "spread-eagle" position: face-up with their arms and legs stretched out and bound to the four posts of the bed. If you are familiar with bondage techniques, you are probably smiling right now thinking of all the wonderful little erotic things you can do (or have done to you) with your partner in bondage.
Classic Spread Eagle Bondage Position
Now… let's get down to business. For the sake of ease, let's assume that you are the dominant party and that previous bondage sessions with your bondage partner went well. Now that a base of trust has developed between you and your partner, you have negotiated a bondage scene that involves spread-eagle bondage.
Appreciating Classics With Twist
Now that you are familiar with the classic spread eagle bondage position, we can explore some of the basic variations on this classic bondage position. These bondage positions include having the bottom with wrists tied together and ankles apart (#2); wrists tied apart and ankles together (#3); and wrists tied together and ankles tied together (#4).
Face Down Spread Eagle Position
Given that the yoga fad has swept the country, everyone is now aware of the calming benefits of posing in the downward facing dog position. Add some ropes, push down that downward facing dog, and you have a whole new stimulating set of yoga positions that you won't be seeing in yoga class. Bring on the face-down spread-eagle bondage positions to soothe mind, body and soul.
Kinky Variations Of Downward Facing Bondage
Now… let's get down to business. For the sake of ease, let's assume that you are the dominant party and that previous bondage sessions with your bondage partner went well. Now that a base of trust has developed between you and your partner, you have negotiated a bondage scene that involves spread-eagle bondage.
Introduction To BDSM Sex Toys
For every bondage fantasy there exists a number of bondage toys to make the fantasy a reality. Bondage sex toys may include rope, arm binders, handcuffs, sport sheets, and wrist and ankle restraints.
What Are Flogging Sex Toys
What are flogging sex toys? Flogging sex toys consist of belts, whips, paddles, riding crops or any other item you can use to spank your partner with during bondage bedroom or regular sex play.
Tips and Cautions Using BDSM Sex Toys
Bondage restraint sex toys don't tend to come with instructions, so we've put together to do, not to do section concerning bedroom bondage toys. Some of this information may seem a little overwhelming at first, but if bondage or BDSM play is part of your sexual play, you owe it to yourself and your partner to be knowledgeable and responsible.
Guidelines For Safe Sane Consensual BDSM Play 1
Bondage or any other types of BDSM play should always strive to be safe, sane and consensual. Bondage is where one person is restrained by another and is usually placed at their mercy. Once a person is restrained, a number of other sexually arousing activities may follow, which can range from tickling and feathers to various forms of punishment incorporating paddles, whips, nipple clamps, and other BDSM devices.
Guidelines For Safe Sane Consensual BDSM Play 2
This second part to the BDSM guidelines for safe, sane, and consensual play revolves around the actual bondage or SM session instead of on the preparation for the bondage and SM scenario. Remember that these are only guidelines and that you may want to take additional precautions to ensure that you and your partner both benefit fully from this shared experience.
Self Bondage and Falling
Common BDSM Risk Factors
Vanilla is often the hassle-free, mass appeal choice—whether in regards to ice cream or to sex. However, adding flavorings or bits and pieces of exotic je-ne-sais-quois to vamp up plain vanilla can be a volatile experiment, especially if too much of a good thing is added and the result is overpowering to the senses.
Tight Bondage and Intoxication
As you have come to appreciate bondage and other SM play is a powerfully charged and often potentially dangerous environment. Adding additional risk factors may heighten the passion of the BDSM play session, however there are some risks which should never enter into BDSM play as the risks far outweigh the benefits as an unfortunate accident could easily result in the permanent physical damage or the death of one or both players.
Abusive Tops and Isolated Areas
Two things that send chills down any prospective or actual BDSM participant: facing an abusive dominant (or being labeled as one!) or being stuck in an isolated area with no means of escape. Abusive dominants can wreak emotional an physical trauma on their partners that can often take years to heal.
Dealing With Pain and Emotional Breakdowns
Emotions are tricky and scooping up a healthy dose of chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream with all the fixings seems a lot more appealing than dealing with an emotionally traumatized partner or determining when pain stops being a "good" thing and becoming a "bad" thing.
Unfamiliar Eguipment and Failure
Last but not least, we will be discussing the importance of familiarizing oneself with the exciting equipment which can make or break a BDSM role play experience. Using bondage and/or SM equipment brings a new set of responsabilities to the table--not only must one be familiar with the equipment, but one must also know what to do when the equipment fails in order to preserve the safety of their partner and themselves.
Emergencies Factor
At best life is unpredictable--this makes life exciting, exasperating and at times unbearable. Emergencies factor into our every day lives whether they are medical or environmental in nature.