Do You Have Recommendations For First Time Sex Gift?

Q: I want to surprise my partner with a sex toy. Do you have any recommendations for a sex toy that will not intimidate my partner?

A: Congratulations for wanting to increase the pleasure both you and your partner derive from sex by incorporating a beginner's sex toy into your sex play. Although speaking to your partner about including a sextoy in your lives is recommended, setting a romantic scene is often a fun way to get your lover to explore some kinkier sex. Invite your lover to a sensuous massage or to have some erotic bedtime treats to pique their interest and once they begin to feel comfortable with these peripheral sex toy scenarios, introduce some light but fun bondage with lined handcuffs or keep your partner guessing by blindfolding them either with one of our signature blindfolds or a silf scarf. If your partner is not into handcuff sex toy bondage or you don't feel comfortable restricting your lover with handcuff sex toys, try watching an erotic adult video and then imitating some of the adult movie star sex positions when you are both aroused.

Once you've explored these options, or if you have already played around with peripheral sex toys, you and your partner are probably ready to engage in a little more hardcore sex toy play. We recommend that you watch an educational adult DVD like Nina Hartley's Guide to Sex Toys before you get busy with your own sex toy, or for you to read a few articles concerning sex toy use. Start easy—explore realistic dildos or vibrators prior to experimenting with anal toys or dildos and dildo harnesses. Remember that your partner may not be as comfortable with exploring sex toys as you are—don't forget to communicate and be patient with their concerns or fears. Starting to use sex toys is sometimes a difficult transition for a partner--be supportive and get feedback so that you know what to order next!